This is something we all get asked about. Here’s an example of a pretty cool Lenormand couples spread along with the rules. I’m posting the rules first, but fear not, we are going to work through an entire real spread with them.
On the Lady’s side:
Above the Lady: Her thoughts and plans
Left of the Lady: Her hopes and desires
Right of the Lady: Qualities she displays in the relationship
Below the Lady: Her feelings
On the Gentleman’s side:
Above the Gentleman: His thoughts and plans
Right of the Gentleman: His hopes and desires
Left of the Gentleman: Qualities he displays in the relationship
Below the Gentleman: His feelings
Note that Hopes & Desires and Displayed Qualities switch positions for each party. That’s because the Lady is at the left, and the Gentleman is at the right, so we can see the Displayed Qualities – how they act towards each other – falling together. It makes a combination showing how they interact with each other as well as showing each of their separate actions.
Now, after you’ve interpreted the cards for each person, add up the numbers of the person’s cards (discounting the significator, which means you don’t add in the number 28 or 29, for the Lady or Gent respectively), then reduce the number to 36 or lower, and add that in as a general advice card for each of them. You can also read the two-card combo for a little information on where the relationship is heading. And then you can add those two cards together to get a likely outcome card for the relationship.
So let’s go through all that step-by-step, and take a look at the Lady first:
Okay, it doesn’t take much to realise this relationship is in serious trouble. The Scythe falls directly above the Lady, indicating her thoughts, and she’s thinking of ending it. Well, let’s see if we can see why. To the left of the Lady is the House, which is her hopes and desires – she wants a stable, solid relationshp, and it appears that isn’t what’s happening with this man. Directly below the Lady, indicating her feelings, is the Cross. She’s in pain here, but may be hanging on out of a sense of responsibility to the Gentleman. And how is she acting towards him? To her right, we see the Fox. Now there could be a little deceit going on, but given the rest of the reading, I’m thinking it looks more like she’s playing her cards close to her chest – she’s not doing or saying much right now, she’s protecting herself from hurt. Fox can indicate that sometimes, instead of out-and-out deceit, and given the pain she’s feeling from the Cross, I’m thinking it’s more self-protection that’s happening than outright lies. She’s not telling him everything, but her reasons seem to be more for keeping the peace than for lying to him. This woman is on the verge of walking out, and she doesn’t want it to be any more painful than it has to be.
Let’s take a look at the Gentleman’s side now.
Our Gentleman has the Whips above him in his thoughts position. There’s been a lot of arguing going on between these two, and he’s preoccupied with it. So this confirms the Lady’s current peace at any price stance. To the right of the Gentleman, we see the Fishes, indicating his hopes and desires. Mostly, this guy wants money, and there are some indications here that he may be a little too fond of the bottle, as well.
So we can already see a good deal of the source of the conflict. The Lady wants a nice, stable home with a good relationship, and the Gentleman appears to be a bit of a workaholic, and probably not spending too much time with her. And when they do spend time they argue. She wants him home, he’s convinced he has to spend more time making more money. There’s more to it than that, obviously, but that’s one of the things that’s driving them apart, and sadly, one we’re seeing all too often in today’s world.
Let’s see what else is happening with the Gentleman. Uh-oh. His feelings, which are shown in the card beneath him, are the Snake. Now this could mean one of two things, or it could mean both of them. He wants a career-minded woman (this is the Snake), or possibly he’s already having thoughts about or actually having an affair with a woman who meets that description. OUCH. And that gives us more of the puzzle as to why he and the Lady are fighting.
As to how he’s acting in the relationship, we get the Child. In this case, I’m going to read the Child as him giving very little (remember that ‘a little bit, not very much’ is one interpretation of the Child), as well as acting naive or oblivious to the Lady’s concerns, or arguing with her when she brings them up. Now look back and see that the Lady is acting the Fox. She knows something’s wrong, probably knows what it is, hence both her pain (Cross), and thoughts of ending the relationship (Scythe).
Now, I’ll give you a tip here. Do we see any indication that the Gentleman is actually thinking of walking out in his cards? Actually, we don’t. Yes, there’s fighting, and yes, there may be another woman, but we have no indication that he’s going to leave the Lady. It’s she who’s thinking of leaving him. At best, with him we see a situation of having his cake and eating it, too. The relationship isn’t uncomfortable enough for him to bail, and it looks like he doesn’t see a problem with having both the Lady, and another woman on the side. People can be like that – bear it in mind. We get another indication of this from the Child card in his actions in the relationship. Yes, he’s playing naive, but he’s also depending on the Lady to keep the house running, the laundry done, the meals cooked, and what have you. It may not be the ideal, but it isn’t that uncomfortable for the Gent.
Whole different story for her, though.
Not a happy situation for these two, though I think it’s probably worse for her than it is for him. What to do? Can it be salvaged? Let’s take a look at the overall card for each of them.
For the Lady, we need to add up the following numbers: 10 (Scythe), 4 (House), 14 (Fox), and 36 (Cross). 10 + 4 + 14 + 36 = 64. That’s not going to do it, so we add 6 + 4 together to reduce the number to 36 or less, and end up with 10 – the Scythe.
For the Gentleman, we need to add up 11 (Whips), 13 (Child), 34 (Fishes), and 7 (Snake). This gives us 65, so we add 6 + 5 together, and come up with 11, the Whips.
When you add 10 + 11 together, you get 21, the Mountain.
If there’s any way to save this one, I can’t see it. We have arguments tearing the two of them apart, nothing bringing them together, and an impassable obstacle to look forward to if it continues. They’d be living in the same house in total estrangement, and she just can’t take that. Not to make this anymore of a grim fairy tale, but when you see Scythe + Whips, or even the other way around, especially with the Mountain following, you may be looking at a situation where domestic violence is the likely outcome.
You will get these readings for clients. Not always this dire, but some of them will be, and some will be worse. Happy people don’t go to fortune tellers, and one of the things most people are unhappy about is their love lives. So think carefully before you speak. I’m not suggesting you sugar-coat – in a situation like this it’s obvious there’s already a lot of pain, and it’s not getting any easier. And there doesn’t look to be a way out, not if they stay together. But do be kind in explaining this to your clients. Please. Because if they’re already in a world of hurt, they need you to acknowledge that – and sometimes, to just give them confirmation of what they already know.
It would be nice if there was always a happy ending, but often times there isn’t, and if you work in fortune telling, you’re likely to be the last stop for a lot of these folks. It doesn’t mean you can’t help. You can see what’s happening clearly if you’re good, and that means a lot. Most clients are tremendously appreciative of honesty, so long as you’re tactful. But you can’t always show people a way to put things back together again.
Anyway, this is how the spread is done, and I hope it’s given you some help or insight or pointers to work your way through it.